Tips for Discussing Drugs with Your Kids for the First Time

Tips for Discussing Drugs with Your Kids for the First Time

By In First Steps, In the News, Social Issues
Posted July 27, 2017


Back to school marks a time where many parents face the first conversation about drugs and alcohol that they will have with their children. Knowing what to say, and not say, during this initial ‘drugs talk’ is a stressful reality for parents.


The Director of the National Institute on Drug Abuse recently said “by the time they are seniors, almost 70 percent of high school students will have tried alcohol, half will have taken an illegal drug…and more than 20 percent will have used a prescription drug for a nonmedical purpose.”


Board-certified Addiction Professional and Internationally Certified Alcohol & Drug Counselor Lyle Fried of The Shores Recovery and Treatment Center ( in Port St. Lucie wants parents to keep a few tips in mind before this big talk:

 An assortment of pills and a needle.

1.)  Don’t Try to be the Cool Parent. Being the cool parent by discussing your history with drugs/alcohol certainly seems like a good way to connect with your kid. But, relating your experience can have a negative impact. If you make it personal then that might give the teen a thought process that “dad did it once, so I can.” Fried says it is important to be understanding of your teen’s plight, but don’t use your past as an example as a way to connect with them on the issue.


2.)  What are The Signs? – Although it’s your kids going back to school, this is a time for you to study too. Get to know the common signs of drug or alcohol use if you are not already aware. This also means continuing education is key. Every few years there are new drugs or drugs that increase in popularity. Make it a point to research and remain informed.


3.)  Just in Your House is NOT OK – for many parents who may have experimented with drugs or alcohol when they were teens, the understandable belief that “kids will try it, so it might as well be where I know they are safe” is a common one. This is an ineffective way to manage the challenges of teen drug use because it is very likely that getting a pass at home will give your child a sense that outside your home is ok too.


4.)  You aren’t a Perfect Parent – like your kids, you will make mistakes, even during the first drug conversation. Following any discussion about drugs and alcohol, take time to think about how that conversation went. Come back to issues you may have missed and take note of any messaging mistakes so you don’t repeat them. Ultimately, give yourself a break. Conversations about drugs and alcohol with teens are not the only factors as to whether they experiment, use, or abuse.


5.)  No Punishment for First Mistake – It may be difficult, but know that after you’ve had the discussion, your child might drink alcohol at a party or try pot. The first time is not the time to come down hard on them. Understanding is the key to giving a teen the comfort to keep an open mind to discussing tough decisions.


Dr. Laura S. Olivos-Alfonsin, Psy.D – Dr. Laura is the Director of Family Recovery and Assistant Clinical Director at The Shores Treatment and Recovery. She is a Certified Structured Family Recovery Counselor and helps families and addicts heal from substance abuse disorder. A graduate from Indian River State College, Florida State University and Nova Southeastern University, she is a passionate advocate for children and families, that extends to the international level where she holds a position with the Olive Tree Foundation for Education as their Mental Health Outreach Coordinator.


Lyle Fried, CAP, ICADC, CHC – Mr. Fried is a Board-Certified Addictions Professional, an Internationally Certified Alcohol & Drug Counselor, an Approved Training Provider for the Florida Certification Board and a Certified Health Coach. He currently is the CEO of The Shores Treatment and Recovery. Lyle provides an unprecedented look into the recovery treatment industry, drawing from his own experiences of addiction and helping shape the industry to provide people with the help they need.  He is a member of AAS, FARR, FFR, AACC, and ISAAC.

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